Friends, there is a legend at the origin of Vaishno Devi, the holy pilgrimage center for Hindus, that Tantric Bhairav Nath had run after the girl Vaishno. He wanted to achieve his liberation through her (most probably through tantric sexual yoga). He wanted to do this by awakening his Kundalini. Kanya (Maiden) Vaishno could not understand his good intentions and became Kali (black mother) in anger and started killing her. Then Bhairava came to know of her divinity and he apologized to her. Vaishno also came to know about his good intentions. She probably regrets that she inadvertently attempted to kill a supernatural tantric. That is why she gave him the boon of liberation and also said that without the visit to temple of Bhairav, there will be no fruit of visit to my temple. This theme also appears to be symbolic or metaphoric. Mata Vaishno did not actually kill Bhairava. To truly attain salvation one has to become void. You have to lose everything. Bhairav also had to become a zero for liberation. This zero is also called asamprajnata samadhi, which leads to enlightenment. This is said to be the death of Bhairava. Due to Bhairava’s attachment to the beautiful form of Vaishno mata in his mind, he developed spiritually and reached the highest level of his liberation, surpassing the level of asamprajnata samadhi and enlightenment. therefore it is said in the story that Vaishno beheaded Bhairava.
In other way, it may be that he had received tantric inspiration from the short company of the goddess mother. With that he got the Kundalini awakening with the help of his real tantric consort (tantric girlfriend), which led to his radical transformation. This is said to be he killed by goddess mother.
Thirdly, the killing of Bhairav Baba by Goddess Mother can also be a metaphor of this theory that using sexual tantra for material prosperity gives material progress but does not give liberation, that one has to die.
Nevertheless, despite good intentions, Baba Bhairav had acted against the rules of Tantra. Tantra never allows an attacking attitude. One has to behave like a decent and detached monk or a naive child. Voluntarily made tantric companions have to be revered, and even worshiped, like a deity. Both have to treat each other as equals. Tantric guru’s mediation is also necessary.
The premarital affair appears to be a distorted form of the above story of Vaishno-Bhairava
We said distorted form because in most of the cases, the love affair between the boy and the girl is not for Kundalini awakening. That is, that love affair is not of a tantric type. In tantra, it is forbidden to have physical relations with one’s daughter or wife. Therefore, in order to maintain a premarital or extramarital affair, it is necessary to avoid physical relations. It also benefits a man by promoting deep tantric practice by him with his real tantric lover or spouse as he being fully satisfied with them. By the way, the main function of Tantric love is to create physical attraction, so that the immovable picture of the lover can remain as Kundalini in one’s mind continuously. This attraction can also arise from simply seeing each other joyfully, speech, working or behaving together in life, gestures, laughter, jokes and outings etc. In fact, physical attraction arising from this go together is stronger and more durable than physical attraction arising out of direct physical relationship. Also, keeping physical relationship with more than one partner isn’t good for community health and community relationships. So as far as possible, it should be restricted to single partner only.
Vaishno Kanya was doing penance for her husband Parmeshwar (pati parmeshwar)or God
The combination of power of three goddesses viz. Saraswati, Lakshmi and Parvati resulted in the birth of Vaishno. She wanted to have God as her husband. In fact, all humans have come from God, and want to have the same. Its metaphoric meaning is that a woman with a tantra is looking for a perfect husband (God-like). If she cannot find such a husband, then she also makes her ordinary husband a god.
Premarital affair can also be life-threatening, while soulmate is the safest
This is probably what happened to famous Bollywood film actor Sushant Singh Rajput recently. Probably, he had become very attached and passionate about his love affair. In such a situation, if the girlfriend does not give the right guidance, then it can prove fatal for the lover. Soulmates (super fast friends) save from this situation. Soulmate is a lover’s girlfriend or vice versa who has a lot of attraction towards him, though he never gets to meet her. That means there is no attachment to that attraction. A person sees his form or his reflection in his soulmate. Soulmates take each other towards the Enlightenment.
Demystifying Kundalini 