Who is Guru?
Guru is a great personality, on whom one has faith, who is loved, and who seems to one to be much more important than himself. The Sanskrit word “guru” means very heavy or big.
Can a lover take the form of a Guru?
Largely, a lover can take the form of a Guru, although in most cases, he cannot become Guru completely. By the way, some exceptions are found everywhere. In most of the cases, respect for the lover is less and his importance is also less. Due to this, the picture of the lover does not sit well in his mind. It is necessary to have both respect and feeling of importance along with love for a Guru. That is why the guru is mostly close to old age. From this, they are knowledgeable, meditative, respected, and yogic. They are spiritual, ritualistic, and priests of deities. They are supposed to live a simple and satvik (pure) life. They are free, softly speaking, balanced, non-violent, and non-fanatic. All the virtues are inhabited in their mind-temple. They are devoid of the defects of the mind, are unattached and non-dual. Due to the above affection and importance for the Guru, his external form full of pastime (leela) settles in the heart of the disciple, and remains for a long time.
Divine qualities are essential in guru
It is so because kundalini itself is divine and tends to produce divine qualities. Therefore, divinity of Guru helps better in strengthening of the kundalini in one’s mind. In addition, divinity attracts God’s grace too. It is so because God also is full of divinity. God’s grace is also an important factor in kundalini growth.
Guru and romantic lover as complementary to each other
Coalition of guru and romantic-lover is an integral and fundamental part of tantra. According to tantra, relationship or connection between the guru and the lover / girlfriend should be maintained in any way. Many spiritual aspirants keep strong relationship (mental or physical or both) with lover and also with the Guru at the same time. This also causes union of images of lover and Guru both together in the mind of aspirants. From that, the respectful affection towards the Guru is transferred over the lover, and the love for the lover is transferred to Guru as pure love. It is like this, if a blind and a lame help each other. Usually, due to the old age of the Guru, love for him is not strong enough to attract them as much as that is there for a romantic loving partner. Similarly, there is not much respect for a sexually based lover, as opposed to an elderly Guru. The reason for this is that mostly this type of gender based lover is materialistic, low-aged, less experienced, less qualified, less yogic, having low-quality, having flaws of mind and dualistic.
The creation and development of two kundalinis together
With the constant contact of the Guru and lover, Kundalini (clear and permanent mental picture) made of pastime forms of both grow together. They both give strength to each other. In the physical atmosphere, the kundalini of lover, and in the spiritual atmosphere, the Kundalini of the Guru develops more. According to favourable conditions, any of the two Kundalinis can be awakened first. Most of the time, the Kundalini of the form of a Guru is awakened, the kundalini of lover becomes its assistant. This is because full mental union is possible only with the guru. Physical stimuli and excitement associated with romantic lover becomes obstacle in the way of his/her form being unified with her/his lover (Kundalini awakening). This is exactly what happened with Premyogi Vajra, who is the protagonist of this website.